WHERE DO I FIT IN?
Have you ever thought seriously about that saying “People Come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime” and wondered where you fit? We mainly focused on ourselves in the relationship and never really think about how we fit with others or affect them. I know for me, I didn’t think about it too much until recently. Relationships are just that, right? Nothing more nothing less.
We are in all kinds of different relationships throughout our lives. We have our employers/employees, friendships, crushes, admiring from a far; face it these are relationships too on an energy level that reaches out and touches someone. There are also the spousal relationships, parents to kids, aunts, uncles, cousins, the list goes on and I am sure you get what I mean.
Sometimes it is difficult to understand where we fit in, but by our own standards we need to define our own boundaries. Why you ask? Keep reading….
Reason for Relationship
We humans are a social species by nature. There are times when the relationships we are in either don’t work, change, grow or become stale and drift apart. Some friendships can be untouched for many years and then one day you find yourself thinking about that person and the next thing you know you either get a call, visit or letter from them and the friendship picks up right where you left off as if time stood still within it.
Relationships are a part of the energy that is in us, around us and we’re all connected to it. You may have sent out a prayer, thought or whatever into the universe for a need that you have and therefore the reason for the relationship you had, have or will have. Or perhaps that other person put it out there and you are their answer. This explains why we have some relationships that are here for just a little while, long time or forever.
When a relationship goes through changes and people drift apart that is usually known as the seasonal relationship. Where you and that other person needed something from each other, you needed to teach, learn, grow or share something of you with them and visa versa. It isn’t always about what that other person can do for you, but perhaps they needed something from you. The seasonal relationship is about the joy and peace that you can get or give from the relationship. Be thankful for these ones, they can be very precious and memorable.
The lifetime relationship is about the lessons that you and/or they need to learn that takes a lifetime to be taught. Here you will discover what you need to do to have a solid emotional foundation to be a better person, more of what you were intended to be. Here is where you take what you have learned in this relationship and use it in all the other areas of your life and within all your other relationships throughout your life.
Like energy, people will flow in and out of our lives because like energy we can’t hold on to them. They will slip through our fingers and we get disconnected. No one knows why this happens but it does.
There is a verse in Kenny Rogers’ song, “The Gambler”, that I makes me think about my relationships and where I fit in and setting boundaries for yourself;
…Know when to hold them, Know when to fold them, Know when to walk away, and know when to run…”
We all could take this verse and perhaps apply it to our lives when it comes to our relationships, especially in our marriages. Personally I look forward to meeting new people, making new friends and learning more about myself through these relationships. I also enjoy spending time with my friends I have now. Whether I am in someone’s life for a day, a month, year or a lifetime, I hope that I leave a footprint of joy behind.