When one begins to start dating, and begins to intimately look at the other partner, there is what is called the 90-day trial period, unfortunately there are no refunds or returns. It is the time of sticking your toe in to test the waters.


When the sight of his name on caller ID gives you butterflies, when lavish nights out or cozy nights in seem equally desirable, and when you doodle his name in a heart bubble circa 4th grade. Once you begin to have these feelings the clock starts ticking and after 90-days for some reason, often means it’s time to sink or swim. Before you decide whether Mr. McDreamy has staying power beyond the initial ooey gooey phase, you will need to ask yourself these 6 questions.


How intimately do you know him?

In the beginning, you should have spent as much as time as possible getting to know your guy. If conversations haven’t plunged beyond, “Can you pass me my pants, please?” or “I’ll have pepperoni on my half,” your relationship potential is not good. In the initial months, you’re most likely to show interest both physically and emotionally, so with this question, evaluate what you have uncovered about your guy. – I find that you are able to connect on another level. Does this person call you when you are sick? Do they check on your well-being, do they do little things for you and then you find yourself wanting to do little things for them, and you are reciprocating in all the same ways? If you are really into someone, and have respect, you do things because you want to, not because it is expected. This cultivates an equal relationship with great potiential!



How much do you have in common?

While opposites certainly can attract, you want some similarities for the long haul — particularly in the values department. So think about whether you’re on the same page when it comes to morals and standards, what you like to do for fun, how you de-stress and so on. While you don’t need to date your carbon copy, having some commonalities is key for longevity. I do believe while opposites attract, I think that finding your extreme ping pong partner, who likes to adventurously absquatulate with mementos, have random billingsgate contests, has one hell of a callipygian, who will take a walk on the wild side and enjoy watching ecdysiasts with you, who has a lot of rigmarole to make you laugh, who enjoys all kinds of shenanigans and who likes to filibuster at random moments.


Does your dog like him?

Dogs have better intuition than people and rarely seem to be wrong about a match made in heaven. So, if you have a dog, pay attention to how your pup behaves around your man. If the dog don’t like him – get your Kiks on and RUN!!!!


how is your time between dates?

The way you view your guy and how you interact with him when you are not seeing him can tell a lot about your potential future and whether it will continue to sizzle… or fizzle. It has to be relaxed, if they are constantly texting, emailing, calling – basically smothering you… Get your KIKS and peace out!


Have you met each other’s friends?

Opening the door to your treasure trove of valuable friends is a clear indicator that your Mr. Someone is Mr. Someone Special, and the relationship might have potential. That holds true for a guy, as well. This is important, your friends can see things that you can blindly not see. If they pass the friends test, then things are looking good!


Are you your best self?

Relationships with potential bring out your very best self. Think about who you are in this relationship vs who you are outside of it. Are you rising to your best self? Is this relationship helping to make you a better you? This is the most important, if you are having to change who you are, or are finding yourself in an alien’s body. AGAIN – get your KICKS – DEUCES/Peace OUT!


About Hiding2014-2016

2016 Life is what it is and you just have to get through it. 2014 I started blogging just a short time ago, it actually feels good. I've made some new friends and soliciting feedback from others who have experienced similar life events helps me to not feel so alone. So we all have bumps in the road, we make poor decisions - we are only human. It is these life experiences who make us who we are today. There is no need to have regret, just move forward. Ok, easier said than done, because as you read my profile, sometimes I take a step forward and then two steps back.

Posted on April 29, 2014, in My Life Over 40, WHEEL OF MISFORTUNE..... Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. How about getting to a second date with these guys before even thinking about this? 99% don’t even meet that potential.


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